The Art Of Being Alone

"Silhouette, 2016" captured by my Ninang Jeune

You have been on your own for several years. Until you let someone in. And suddenly, everything had changed.

Your strong and independent hands became warm and tender. Your little feet that managed to stand alone since the day you left your home became weak and unsteady. The giant and steady walls around you broken up because you let someone in. Your eyes that has always been dry, moistened.
And you suddenly forgot the feeling of independency and self-sufficiency.

But you don't hate it. In fact, you are addicted to it.

You fell in love with the feeling of someone is there for you. With the thought that there is someone you can run into. With the thought that someone cares, worships and respects you. You longed for it. And that's the reason you became so weak.

 You gave it all out. Your time, your decisions, your everything for that person. You cared for that person's happiness more than any other.

You loved madly.

Then you became uncertain. You've got this feeling of anxiety dwells in the very insides of you - spreading like a cancer around your body. What if he left me? What will i become? Will I die? Will I be able to survive alone? I don't want to be alone.

And then it happens. The thing you feared the most, happened. That person you are overly-attached to, left you with a broken heart and confused mind. And you don't know what to do.


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   Honey, there is an art of being alone. You can have the luxury of time you always wanted to. Well, you always have it. You just forgot about it. Now, you can totally use it for yourself - for your own good.

Eat healthy. What is in the insides of you is what who you are. Don't just focus on your outside self, but, give more attention on your inner self. Eat healthy, in-take goodness and avoid toxic. Your wellness and your health is more important than anything. If you are flourished, everything else will follow. A healthy mind, soul and spirit. A healthy relationship. A healthy you.

Do good even if you are broken. There is no other ways to make your life better than doing a good deed. Help others who are in need. Show them love and affection. What you do will always come back at you. And the feeling of contributing something beautiful have no price. It is the most awesome feeling you will ever have - more than anything else.

Be real. Being an as*hole is an exemption of course. Be real as in if you don't like something, say it. If you love something, say it. But be careful with words. Don't think high of yourself. Think about thinking like everyone does. Try to put yourself in everyone's shoes. If you start to think and feel like how everyone will do, you will start to grow.

The art of being alone is in your hands. You were on your own when you entered this world. So, don't depend your happiness on others. Because each and everyone of us are unique individuals and has our own capacities, abilities and beliefs.
That moment you let someone in and you became weak - that is not healthy. The next time you will let someone enter your life, you should be whole first. And that person should be, too. And you two will be two beautiful grown up beings, helping each other grow more in faith, hope and love.